flatsixcrazy, if you're still shopping, there's a fairly large gun show this weekend in Chantilly at the Dulles Expo Center (
http://www.thenationsgunshow.com)
I have medium sized hands and a 1911 style pistol with the 1911 mainspring housing fits me well but the 1911A1 style makes the grip a little large.
If you're looking at high capacity 9mm's, the Browning Hi Power also comfortable.
Dave